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Friday, November 9, 2007

I am a 17 year old jc student. I feel rejected in every aspect of life. I am feeling really depressed now and feel like dying... but i am scared of cutting my wrist although i have tried before. I jus took my promos... no need to think, i m quite sure i flopped my exams. in addition to that, there is no one around me to give consolation. my class totally ostrocize me n i rili feel lyk jumping down from the 4th floor. I have totally no coommon topic with my classmates. They always like to play pranks on me. During breaks, the guys always go off together without me. ***..then i have to eat by myself. the gals all think i am a loser!!! wth!!

Although i admit i am not very good looking but i think i am decent looking. Recently i told a gal in my class that i like her. she said she wants to focus on her studies and only want to be friends. however from then on she started avoiding me. she even make a joke of me. i even overheard one of her friends saying "he so er xin and such a loser still dare to jio u". i feel very sad after hearing this. What shall i do?

Lost

Hi Lost,

I sympathise with you that you have to go through all these while other youths are having lots of fun with their friends. I remembered that in my time, we do have some students in class that suffered the same fate as you. They were always the one being made fun of. Somehow there's something different about them. They usually fall under one or more of the below categories;

1) They look weird, nerdy or geeky.

2) They are quiet and easily intimidated.

3) They can't communicate well with others.

4) They dress weirdly or carry weird bags or accessories.

Somehow they are just different. No, I don't mean that they deserve all these just because they are different. But for other kids, these people are easy targets for ridicule and pranks and they knew they can get away with it.

These are some suggestions that I thought you can do;

1) Continue to be yourself and be different from the rest. This is your style and soon people will recognise you for this. However, your style needs to be positive. That means you can be artistically dressed up but not sloppy or ugly. Having a positive style of your own is good.

2) Try to change yourself a bit so that you can blend in with the rest. You do not have to throw away your preferences but can make changes bit by bit so that others will not find it weird to associate themselves with you.

3) Build up your confidence and learn to communicate well with others. Do not feel scared of taking the 1st step because you never know until you try, right?

As for the girl you like, you are probably better off without her if she's someone that say such nasty things about you. It shows that she's not that nice a girl afterall. After you managed to improve your self-confidence and am to mingle and blend in with the rest, I am sure you wouldn't have any problem looking for the right girl.

All the best!

A Luv Guru

- "It doesn't matter who you love, or how you love, but that you love" ... ;

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