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I met a gal (KY) during my internship and since we worked in different departments, we seldom talked to each other or get to know each other better. I only manged to talk to her on two occasions at the bus interchange. Then sch starts and we return to our respective lives. One day i found out that someone added me on msn ans as always, i just added the contact. It was actually KY and I was quite surprised cos at that time I din really know her that well. I just quite curious and so asked our common friend about this and he told me not to imagine things cos he told me KY is that sort of gal. Anyway, since then ky and I would chat on msn about sch work, internship matters etc. 50% of the time she would say hi to me first on msn. Slowly we talked about our views on BGR and this lasted for about 8 weeks till now. I guess we are flirting with each other. When she returns from afk, she would tell me that she is back. She told me before that she was not actively looking for a BF now and she knows that I am single cos our common fren told her about it. Every now and then she would mention me in her blog and we would chat on msn till 2, 3 am. I feel like she is dropping hints to me on msn and showed signs of interest or rather she has a good impression of me. Once I asked her how she thinks about me and she said that I am a shy guy. Ahe also mentioned that I am a special friend to her. I see her in the lecture theatre for one of my modules but we nv spoke b4 in sch. Now comes the problem: 1. I am not sure whether she is really interested in me or does she treat all her friends the same way. Cos from her blog, I can see that there are a couple of close male friends in her life. 2. I am not sure whether I can juggle my sch work and r/s with her if I really get tgt with her. 3. I am really a shy guy like she said and when it comes to matters of the heart I dunno what to do. I nv had any female friends, not in contact with any over sms or msn.. not even sec sch frens. So i feel i am inexperience and I got no idea whether I really like her. I dunno whats the feeling of love. But everytime i would yearn to see her online and talk to her. I do not understand myself and dunno if I really love her. How can i find the answer. I feel quite troubled over this. What should I do now? My friends told me to talk to her more face to face and also ask her out.
Hi protillium,
There are a few reasons why a girl will talk to you over MSN. Maybe she's bored or maybe she just need to talk to someone.
For your case, you need to ask yourself whether you have the time to juggle between work and her, if no then no reasons for you to be so troubled over this, right?
I am assuming that yes, you have the time for this. So, I hope I can help you solve your problems. You did said that you are very inexperienced in this and do not really talk or interact with girls before in the past. May I also know how old are you now? There's no harm in being friends with this girl as it will help you to gain more experience. However, from what you said, nobody can confirm that this girl is interested in you.
If it's me, I will try to date her at least twice and if she rejects me twice, I will probably stop doing so. This is because it's quite clear that you tried dating her and she can't be so ignorant and don't know that you are interested in her. If she is genuinely busy, then she can propose another day to meet with you. If not, then I don't think she is interested.
I also don't think that you can "love" her as both of you have been mostly talking on cyberspace and people do behave differently in real life. Thus, I suggest you do not take the chats online too seriously.
I will advise you to meet more girls in real life and try making more friends first because you need all the experiences in communicating with girls and understanding them better. After doing that, you will probably face less obstacles next time if you meet someone you like.
As for this girl, continue to be friends with her and see how it goes but please do not put in anymore feelings for her, just treat her as a friend. In the meantime, meet for girls and widen your social circle and who knows you will realise that you do not really love this girl afterall.
A Luv Guru
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"It doesn't matter who you love, or how you love, but that you love"
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